The power of heart break
Bollywood has always shown us the happy sides. Hero crossing few barriers and meeting the heroine! Happy endings! But nobody talks about what if the story ends? What if there is a heartbreak? What after the happily ever after?
Long Long time back — we had tremendous power. But when we started misusing it, the supreme God decided to take this power and hide it somewhere. After many debates with his colleagues, God decided to place it inside the man’s heart. And the key to access this were two —
- Love
- Heartbreak
If you have been in love, you know this power. When you can do anything for the person you love. The same feeling of conquering the world after the workout or playing anything you love or from the chocolates and ice creams! The adrenaline rush.
A thing to note: “Humans transfer their emotional energy”. Poets have transferred it into poems, artists into their art, entrepreneurs into startups. The greeks call this Meraki. For the same reason our mom’s food taste the best! Because its made from the heart. Thats the emotional energy which is there. From the love of your mom to your food. But there is a flaw in this Love. You only do impossible stuff for your partner. Not for anyone else, not for you, just for your partner. How many time they might have said — “I will get the moon and stars for you”. We can do Real amazing things in love which we cannot have done but only for that one person.
Now lets talk about heartbreak! When I say heartbreak, its not just your partner. This can be with your parents, friends or anyone you love. Whenever you are hurt, thats what a heartbreak is. Generally it happens through three major things —
- No
- Cheat
- Death
I have done tremendous things when I was heartbroken. On seeing this, I realized I was not the only one. I went down the history lane and saw a lot of artists, musicians, entrepreneurs, etc producing their masterpieces when they were heartbroken.
In the memory of Mumtaz Mahal by Shah Jahan.
Be it Amy Winehouse, Alexander, Adele, Shakespeare — they have been showing the scars to the world and telling that this is the energy that drives them. They are saying yes to scars. They are showing it off. They are not shy of it.
The world was not changed by Gurus, Babas and Swamis, but those who had emotional energy and did not like what was going on.
Things happening in heartbreak — taking you closer to yourself!
In our normal life — our human tendency is to keep lying to ourself — saying that “my plan has to work! Its my plan”. We are in the constant denial phase for anything else. But during the heartbreak — you start to look at many things which you wouldn’t have done otherwise but you wanted to do.
There’s one thing you shouldn’t do anytime — to lie to oneself. And when you are heartbroken you can’t lie to yourself. So thats the point when you do amazing things. Nothing good can come from lying to yourself.
Its only ever been my head’s interpretation of what I think everybody thinks I should be that has ever told me that I am not good enough. Our heart tell things which are often put on the sideline and only brought out when we’re really emotional or comfortable but they’re with us every step of the way and I believe are the fundamental part of our success in life. That feeling which we get when we know that something is really really right or really really wrong is just as important in business, innovation and our career as it is in Love and relationship.
This helps you to get to know who you exactly are. And also helps you to understand other people. Learning how they feel and becoming open.
Now, How does a heartbreak actually feel?
For those who haven’t had a heartbreak let me help with what you feel— you are at the rock bottom. You are in the most depressed stage of your life and broke. You are at the edge of a cliff. You have no shame, nothing left to loose. Now just analyse these things —
- You have “no fear” — You are at the edge of cliff. Either you will fly or you will fall but you are not scared.
- You are full with “emotional energy” — Anxiety, depression, insecurity, jealousy, everything! There is so much energy inside us which needs to come out.
- You have the “mental space” — Even though you are the busiest person in the planet, your mind becomes empty. You still want to do things. You think about yourself. You get so much time to introspect. And thats when you get to know what you really want to do. What your heart really wants.
(No Fear + Energy + Free Mind) => Mantra for success
You can either fail or use this energy to fuel your success. Your success to doing anything you always wanted — opening the company, writing the book, or any other thing.
If you don’t believe me then go and try a heartbreak for yourself. That was the best thing that happened to me!
I felt that we should speak about such things as they are not spoken very often. Little late than never! You may contact the author at me@abhinavrai.com